The Randomness of Random pt 28

You know when you're in a situation and you think... I could do this (xxxxx) whatever 'this' may be... And I could effect the situation in 'this' way and make it so 'this'... Blah blah blah. Sometimes just KNOWING you could do it, whatever it is, is enuf. Sometimes just knowing you could get around that 18wheeler on the highway is enuf to satisfy you and not encourage you to take the big risk... Sometimes knowing you could hurt someone's feeling so bad it would devastate you is enough to keep you from acting a fool and embarrassing yourself to no end.. sometimes knowing you could make a bet and win and subsequently take all the persons money if you wanted to is enuf to actually not do it and really see the impact you can make on someone. Good or bad.

So how often does this stop us? How often do you stop and consider the impact you will have one someone? How often do you stop and consider the consequences of your actions?

Today I was making a right hand turn and was coming up behind 2 big dump trucks. I knew i could floor it and zoom around both of them if I wanted to an draw a lot of attention to myself and prob scare those dump truck drivers. But I didn't do it. I knew I would probably scare them and make them nervous. I chose to be patient and wait. And for me that would be the road less traveled. But how often do YOU choose this road? How often do you take a step back, consider the big picture and evaluate? How often are you considering how you will impact that person you're abt to deal w?

On this Valentines day... Let's consider others... Let's be good to those we see, love, and have in our lives.

Happy day of awareness... Whatever your awareness is. :)

The Randomness of Random pt 27

I watched the movie "Social Network" last nite, i went ahead and bought it because i was sure i would want to own it. I am so glad i did buy it, it indeed was one of the best films I've seen in a long time. i also saw "Black Swan" a couple weeks ago, that was also really really awesome!!! I'm glad both of them are up for academy awards this year.

In watching Social Network, though, it made me look at Facebook differently... but it also made me think about what i was doing, what was I going to do to make a difference in this world? How was I going to make a morbidly epic mark on life in general? I used to have such huge dreams for my life... being a missionary living in India, working for a church/missions program, moving far far away from Memphis, in General, and it seems like all i have done lately is focus on the present, what is at hand, and not the big picture. I've always been a 'big picture' kinda person, seeing beyond what is right in front of my face, seeing the whole... seeing beyond the now... however, that movie made me realize that I have to get my big focus back, that I need to make points to see beyond.... and so as some of you may have noticed that i have posted on my FB page that 2011, I WILL travel more, i will make points to see my friends and visit with those i love and miss dearly. I am even more inspired now to think bigger, thing better, think EPIC....

what are you going to do today to make a mark on this world? I know i often focus on the Christian perspective, but for general conversational purposes... what are YOU going to do?

The Randomness of Random pt 26

My heart is full of sadness. My future is full of excitement. My children are full of promise. My life is full of God, friends, love and fun. And yet... My heart weeps so... I had such high hopes for this year of 2011. 11 is indeed my lucky #. :) it's my number of coincidence and correlation. It's supposed to be my year. My. Year. And it's now just.... I have no words to describe what I feel. And I have no idea... I just Have no ideas. All I do know, I will make it. God doesn't bring u to anything He won't get u thru.






Here's a pic from our apts from Sunday night. A night of beautiful snow. :)

The Randomness of Random pt 25

25Inspiration has escaped me lately. I've been in a constant state of numbness. And I'm not sure when it will end.

Life keeps us busy. Both my girls have birthdays in December so this is a busy busy time for us. It's good, just BROKE! Ha!! But Santa is comin soon. We are in Houston. The time is bittersweet. I thought instead of writing about my time in Houston again I'd write about the things I have learned and what is worth note:
It's so important to focus on the good things in life. Why are you so darn critical of everyone and everything... ???
The 'you's' are proverbial.
If you have not family, what do you have? (family is not defined by blood either)
These are in no sequential order.
Sometimes.... You just gotta laugh.
I heart Mexican food, I've had it every day!
If you can't be comfortable w your fam, who CAN you be comfortable with?
Facebook isn't essential. :)
Make the most of what you have, even if others dont.
Just because you don't like me doesn't mean I Have to not like you.
If is not Abt what is behind you or what is in front of you... It's all abt the ride there.
I don't have to forgive what you did, but I do have to forgive you. (reminder to self)
Sometimes you just HAVE to let others help you... Ditch the pride ppl.
Your problem isn't necessarily my problem, but I will help you.
It's ok to not say ANYTHING... Sometimes.
Cherry coke zero is amazing.
There is nothing More perfect Than your baby only wanting you.
I'm not judged on YOUR opinion.
Rest is necessary.
Humor can only cover up so much.
My grandmother is an angel.

I'm sure there's more but there ya go. :)

Scrooge or not the Scrooge... That is the question.

It's so weird... I am actually getting into the Christmas spirit. Everything going on should be making me the Scrooge. But I'm actually thinking abt putting up my tree when I get hm Tuesday. I even bought more ornaments!!! Crazy, huh!!??!!

It's not a life that anyone would ask for, but it's the life God is blessing me with, and that is an optimistic outlook, a solid good hearted nature and hope. Hope that He will make the best of this life in His way and in His time. And with all going on, I know this is all for His will. And who am I to question the All-Mighty?

So I will keep on with what He provides and be blessed and try as hard as I can to do what He needs me to do. It's not an easy road He called for me but it is the road He chose for me and I have no doubt it's the best one.

So... Merry Christmas folks. Happy thanksgiving. Happy Hanukkah. Happy new year. Happy QuanzaChristmakah, whatev makes ur heart happy. :) I wish you a great Celebration of life, love and loved ones. And hope. Hope for you and yours.



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Where I've been...

I know it's been about a month since I've written a blog and I'm not sure if some of you wonder why. So, I thought this drive I'm on would be a good time to explain whats been happening.

The short of it, my dad is dying. In all transparency, he's an alcoholic and is trying to speed up his last few days I think. I'm currently sitting in the back seat of my gmas car as she drives me to his house so i can see what's left of him. I was told he looks nothing like who he was even 4 months ago, virtually unrecognizable. And I'm scared of what I'm to expect.

Were abt an hour outside Houston and ready I see oil wells, man I miss home.

I haven't known what to do abt this situation w my dad... Were not close and it's solely bc of his drinking. And even Now, as in the past, he pushes away anyone who wants to help him, he's mean to ppl and won't listen to anyone. He thinks he knows best, as he always has done that and almost always is wrong, when ppl are just trying to help this ungrateful unhappy man.

It's so hard for me to be sympathetic to someone who wont help himself and purposefully put himself in this situation. I do not want to help him. But the part in me that values family and considers 'will I regret this later?' makes me go out here to see him. He doesn't deserve it and I shouldn't spend time nor money on someone who doesn't care abt me really but he's my father. I have to. He won't be here much longer and I'm not going to have a regret abt this...

I don't talk much abt my personal life but... As Paul Harvey says, now you know the rest of the story.

I have a great family (other side of the family) as I have written about before, my grandma is the closest thing to a guardian angel that anyone could get to. Without her, I don't know where I'd be. And in the holiday time and this difficult time, I'm so thankful for her. She let's me deal in my own ways and is very non-judgmental.

Find something unexpected to be thankful for. We all have beautiful amazing things in our life that are due their appreciation so I encourage you to find the shiny specks around you, big and small, that keep you going. It's a grateful time to be alive.




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The Randomness of Random Pt 24

Every time i hear Pink Floyd's 'Wish You Were Here', oh how it evokes the deepest feelings that i think are buried deep down in the pit of my stomach that I won't see for a very very long time...

It makes me sad and nostalgic and just so uber openly contemplative. i get this sense of open mindedness, like i'm drifting, hovering, looking at my life from the big open perspective in the sky. it's almost a supernatural experience, but so not......

Anyhoo. I love this song. it's one of my all time favorite songs... EVER.

I have to say, as well.... It's so much better to have the big picture perspective of your life rather than a short termed tunnel vision setting. i feel... safer. I have a drive and ambition and persistance... It's amaznig secure to know that where i am now isn't where I'm gonna be. And it enables me to make better decisions. I thank God that He gave me the ability to look beyond the right now into the 'what will be'. I now need to get rid of the procrastination part of me and get to moving to that part of 'what will be'!!!! I'm so happy about the decisions I've made lately.

The Randomness of Random pt 23

This is just a reminder for all you who are passionate and thrive on self improvement...

Remember that when God tells you 'no' about something, it's not always a bad thing. I have to remember when I get that sense of rejection that it's not necessarily a personal thing... Sometimes it's God shielding us from unnecessary hurt, pain, trauma/drama, or something worse... Sometimes the 'no' is a protective maneuver from the Big Man above.

Don't take rejection personal. "It's not you, it's me..." Sometimes it really isn't you.... but then again... sometimes it is. Learn to discern the difference. Change those things about you that you don't like. Improve on the things you do. And Pray to know how to recognize the difference.

Much Love!!!

The Randomness of Random Pt. 22

why do we want what we want when we want it?
Do you ever ponder the mechanics of interestingness? What makes you interested in something and then, to go even further in it, what keeps you interested in something? Its like... fire. who's NOT interested in fire? We see fire and we stare at it most times, providing not a house fire and no lives are at stake, we could easily just stare into flames, into what it is, the colors, the embers.... then we like to play with it. we know it could hurt us if we let it... we know it can be dangerous, but we do it still the same, none the less, without even caring. but why? why are we so interested in something that can be dangerous and hurt us?

Do you see a great analogy here? do you see a correlation here to why we even go into a relationship, with anyone... with our friends. trusting our family. falling in love... why??? they're all dangerous, or present a possibility for it. they're all carrying a probability of being hurt in some way at some point in time. but we do it without question usually. why are we interested in developing relationship? why are we interested in certain ppl and not in others? why.... great questions you all ask...

In order to understand our own interestingness, you must in turn come to an understanding with yourself and be ok with the 'self realization' you will have when you discover the things you do and don't like. and you have to be OK with what you see... this self discovery is crucial to the understanding phase of why we do what we do and why we want what we want. do you know this is probably one of the hardest things you'll ever have to do.... Being honest with yourself and accepting that it's truth. But once you can do this, you can become the person you want to be. you can change what you don't like about yourself and you can be a happier person.

So... why do we like what we like? i find it usually comes to self preservation. why do i want it when i want it (usually now) because 'das how we roll....

The Randomness of Random pt 21

Have you ever considered Scrabble to be a great analogy for life!?

If you have a smart phone or friends with someone who does, you may have heard the buzz over the last year about words with friends, an Internet based scrabble game you can play with random ppl or your own friends. I started playing this game earlier in the year, as i do often try to delay jumping on band waggons 'just because' until i see the benefits and costs of each situation. After beginning to play, however, i found it does become addictive, mostly bc i can be somewhat competitive... (i must get that from my mom for sure... ;)

So, I def can hold my own in this game... i do have a knack in finding combination words and i wondered why am i good at this game? Does it have any correlation on the way i view life? bc, think about it... scrabble is in essence a game of chance, if you play your tiles right. it's all about taking what you have and making the best of it. sometimes you win. sometimes you lose, but it FOR SURE is all about how you play the game. If you don't try to find the bonus plays, by making multiple words, you won't succeed. if you don't ride out those double word or double letter or triple play tiles you won't win. its all about looking at the big picture, strategizing, getting the biggest bang for your buck and hoping and praying the opponent doesn't try to hit you when you're down.

who thought Scrabble could be such an amazing analogy for life!!!!
before you play, take a step back and consider, is there another avenue that is going to take me farther? and are there any bonus plays i can get to make my move more successful? it's amazing how far we can go here.....

Enjoy my beautiful people!!! PLAY SOME WORDS! HAPPY BIRTHDAY SHANNAN (Right)!

The Randomness of Random pt 20

Is it always when you least expect things to happen that they do? So many things, good and bad, have happened lately and of course I’m not expecting them to happen at all! But alas they do… and it’s not always a bad deal. Sometimes the things you need are the thing that hurt the most… Like the song says from The Fray – All at once, ‘We’d never know what’s wrong without the pain. Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same…’

That song means so much to me in 1000 different ways… I’m so the least from perfect. I see that all the time. I am 100% not the best ever. But one thing I know from experience… anytime I let go of something I want so much but know I need the like a hole in the head… I get something so much more amazing and wonderful from it!!!!! God, it’s amazing… saying that to say… you have to be mature enuf and have enuf faith to know when you do the very things that you know you need to, whether it be from God or whatever you believe, the blessing you have awaiting yourself is going to knock your socks off, babe… truly blow your mind.

“Momma, I’m coming home!”